Should You Have a List of What You Want Your Future Husband to be?

It's more important to try and be yourself  what you want your future husband to be. Because you will most likely attract someone with the same values as you. For example, if you want a hardworking guy and you're lazy, you won't attract a hardworking guy. If you want a guy who is unselfish, he won't choose you if you are very selfish! If you want a guy who is active in serving God, the guy you're looking for will want a wife who is the same. So I would suggest you write a list, and then apply it to yourself.
It is important to want a good guy. It should matter to you what he is like. But the most important thing is for him to love the Lord and to be honorable. He needs to be someone you can respect.
If I had written a long list of what I wanted my future husband to be, I would have been a bit disappointed or I would still be single!! But my husband loves God and is someone I can respect. That is what's important. God's priorities are often different to ours.
Also, God knows what kind of man you need and what guy needs you. And it's probably different than what you think! :)
Pray for God to give you a husband who loves God and ask God to show you who that one is. There is only one for you! And pray that God will make you into what you want your husband to be.
I heard one pastor say "There are some woman who can't find a man because the man that they're looking for died on the cross and ascended to the right hand of the Father and there's not another one like Him."
There are no perfect guys out there. If there were, none of them would want to marry imperfect females like us!! But there are guys out there who live for God and who are respectable.

Why Do Girls Need to Dress Modestly?

1) God says so.
This is all that really matters, isn't it? God said it, that settles it! It's a command from God.
  In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, 1Timothy 2:9

2) Guys think differently than girls.
My husband has told me I will never understand how guys think! He's right! But I do know a little bit.
Guys are visual. They are attracted/tempted by what they see.
Remember David with Bathsheba? If it had been the other way around, would Bathsheba have been tempted? I doubt it!! Girls aren't attracted to guys that way, right? It's just not a temptation! For me, at least! Girls are more tempted by touch.
Guys are different. So if we aren't modestly covered, we are a temptation for them to think sinful thoughts etc. Do you want to be a stumbling block to guys?

3) Safety.
So many bad things happen to girls because of the way they are dressed. I heard of some tourist girls in our country who were raped/attacked. In the newspaper report someone said something like, "The way they were dressed explained it." Of course guys are responsible for their sinful actions, but we shouldn't put temptation in front of them, otherwise we're just as guilty. I met a lady who is a missionary to the Aborigines in Australia. She reckoned that where she lived, there weren't so many rapes etc. because females don't wear tight and revealing clothes like they do here. If all girls dressed modestly, there would be a lot less problems in this world!

4) Clothes are supposed to be a covering.
Clothes are supposed to cover, aren't they? Not uncover!! Today clothes are designed to uncover.

5) You are an example to younger girls.
Girls around you are watching how you dress.  How you dress will affect how they dress. Are you a good role model?

6) It's honoring to God.
The Bible teaches us that whatever we do, we should do to the glory of God. That includes the way we dress. When is the last time you thought, 'Do these clothes honour God?'
Or do we dress to draw attention to ourselves? Do we dress to be like the world?

7) Dressing modestly will attract the right kind of guy!
If you don't dress modestly, you will attract attention, but not from a godly guy! Godly guys will have to look the other way. You want a guy who likes you for who you are--not for your body, right?

8)The way you dress reflects your heart.
I know that you can dress modestly and have a sinful heart. But if you have a heart that wants to please God, then it will affect the way you dress. If your heart is pure, you'll want to dress in a way that is pure.

9) It gives you dignity.
In the Bible in Proverbs there is a story about the strange lady. It says she is dressed like a harlot (prostitute). How do you think a harlot would dress?? I can guess! Why do they dress like that? To try and get attention to themselves. Does the way you dress make you look like a harlot?? There is no dignity in that.
I listened to a sermon where the preacher explained the difference between beauty and sensuality. God created beauty. Beauty isn't wrong.
But sensuality is different. It brings attention to your body in a sinful way. Like a harlot. Sensuality is wrong. It's not beauty.
If you're not for sale, don't advertise!

Does God have one specific person for you to marry or would any good Christian guy do?

Is there a 'right' one?
If I hadn't believed that God had a specific person for me to marry, I wouldn't have married the man that I did! I wasn't attracted to my husband when I first met him or when he wanted to start a relationship sometime later. I hardly knew him and we didn't live in the same area, so I couldn't really get to know him without starting a relationship. If I hadn't believed that God had a specific person for me, I wouldn't have even thought twice about it. But I knew it was possible that he was the right one for me, so I prayed about it a lot and asked God for wisdom. And after five years of being married, I am so thankful I left the choice to God because He always knows what's best!
So I definitely believe the answer to this question is yes! (If its God's will for you to marry)
But I wasn't sure if I could actually back it up from the Bible.
So I started looking and was surprised at what I found. I read the story of Rebekah and Isaac to see if there were any clues.
In Genesis 24:14 when Abraham's servant was praying about finding a wife for Isaac he said,

And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.

He said the same thing again in verse 44 when he was talking to Rebekah's family.
This servant believed that there was one particular girl who was the right one for Isaac. And it made his job a whole lot easier!! :)
And then if you look at the story of the very first marriage, you see that God created a wife for Adam. He didn't create 10 and give Adam the choice! He created Eve especially for Adam.
God knows what we need far better than we do.
But in saying all that, no guy is perfect! The right one does not mean a perfect one. And it's more important to be the right one yourself!

How do you respond to a friend who says they have visions and have met with God and talked to Him in them?

A question you could ask them is...

If what God says to you in a vision is different to what is in the Bible, how can you trust it? And if it is in the Bible, why would you need a vision????

And another question is...

Why does God give visions when He has already given us His Word?

In the Old Testament and a few times in the New Testament, God spoke to people in visions or dreams. I remember thinking one time, “Why do all the dreams in the Bible mean something and yet dreams today don't? I sure wouldn't want all my strange dreams to have meanings!!” And then I realized that back then people didn't have the whole Bible to read like we do today.

Today God speaks to us through His Word, the Bible. We don't need anything else.

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works. 2 Timothy 3:16-17

God tells us how He speaks to us today.

God, who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets,

Hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son, whom he hath appointed heir of all things, by whom also he made the worlds; Hebrews 1:1 -2

Then these verses in John say that Jesus is the Word. So God speaks to us by His Son, through the Bible—God's written Word.

John 1:1,14 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.

Many cults have started because of their leaders having visions and believing God spoke to them.

They each believe they are they are the right group and yet their beliefs contradict each other and the Bible. Yet if God truly spoke to each of them, this wouldn't happen.

I found this list of several things that are common with people who have visions. The person who made this list had met many people who had visions. I thought it was interesting as it makes it quite obvious to me that the visions aren’t from God!

1) They have been thinking about the subject of the vision before it happened or something else triggers the dream.

2) It often happens in relationship to sleep. The person wakes up and has the vision.

3) The vision generally confirms to them what they had already been thinking about.

4) The vision generally does not bring them closer to the Lord, but directs them away from the Bible and/or sound doctrine.

5) Without exception the person who has the vision was in doctrinal error and/or attending a church that was doctrinally unsound.

I hope this is helpful! But above all, pray that God will give you the right words. He knows exactly what that person needs.

How do you remain "just friends" with a guy without either ignoring him or getting too close?

It can be difficult to stay 'just friends' with a guy when you're a teen or older! From what I've seen, often either the guy or girl will start to care and will end up getting hurt or they end up getting married! And yet at first they were 'just friends!'
 So I would say it's best to stick to 'girl' friends as much as possible to avoid those complications. It's also good practice for when you're married, because when you're married you have to be careful not to get too friendly with other men. I have heard of a few examples of pastors or leaders having to step down because they got too friendly with another lady that wasn't their wife. They didn't commit adultery, but they were just too friendly and it wasn't appropriate.
Most young guys will become someone's wife one day. Think of how you would want other girls to treat your future husband and treat other guys that way.

I have always found this verse helpful about how to treat guys.

Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren(brothers);

The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity. 1Timothy 5:1-2

You can't ignore guys especially if they attend your church or youth group, but you don't need to unnecessarily make contact with them like texting etc. Just be polite but not too friendly.

So my advice is to think of guys as brothers rather than friends, be polite but not too friendly and try and stick to 'girl' friends!

Where is a good place to begin reading the Bible?

I was listening to my Mum talking to an Israeli guy who had just started reading the New Testament. He had started with the book of Revelation! My Mum told him, "That's not a good book to start with."  "What's wrong with it?" he asked. "Oh, there's nothing wrong with it, but it's just not very easy to understand," explained my Mum.
Some books of the Bible are easier to read than others, so it is important to start reading somewhere that's not too difficult.
If you are new to the Bible and what it teaches, the first few chapters of Genesis would be a good place to start as it tells us how life began and where things went wrong. After that, one of the first four books in the New Testament, (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) would be good, as they are easy to read and also teach us about Jesus Christ.
If you already know a lot about the Bible, I would probably start with one of the four that I just suggested above (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John). 

How do you know God's will in making decisions?

Surrender your own will

If you want directions to get to a certain place, you have to admit that you don't know the way yourself. You have to be willing to accept that what you thought was the right way may not actually be! If you're determined that you already know the right way, you won't listen to advice. It's the same with making decisions. If you want to know God's will you must be willing to accept whatever His will is. And often (but not always) it's not we would choose.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9

How can one schedule their time to read the Bible?

“And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word

...one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:39,42

*First of all, make it a priority.

If you don't make it a priority, it probably won't happen very often. I'm learning that what you prioritize is what you get done. If it's last thing on your list, you probably won't have time. We have time for what we make time for.

Is it wrong dating someone who is not a Christian?

My answer is yes!

The Bible doesn't have clear rules on some subjects, but it does give us clear principles to follow.

Here are five principles which I think give us the answer to this question.

1)Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2Corinthians 6:14

The Bible teaches us very clearly not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers. Why? Because it simply doesn't work. You're both going in different directions. Your closest relationships should be to believers.

Why do teen Christians find it so hard to talk to God about their sin and to confess to Him?

There are seven things that I can think of that make it hard to confess our sin.

1)Dishonesty

We often have excuses, we blame it on someone else or we just don't really think it is sin. To confess we have to be completely honest and admit that “I was wrong!” Adam and Eve are a perfect example of that! Proverbs 28:13 says “He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.”