Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Why Do Girls Need to Dress Modestly?



1) God says so.
This is all that really matters, isn't it? God said it, that settles it! It's a command from God.
  In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, 1Timothy 2:9

2) Guys think differently than girls.
My husband has told me I will never understand how guys think! He's right! But I do know a little bit.
Guys are visual. They are attracted/tempted by what they see.
Remember David with Bathsheba? If it had been the other way around, would Bathsheba have been tempted? I doubt it!! Girls aren't attracted to guys that way, right? It's just not a temptation! For me, at least! Girls are more tempted by touch.
Guys are different. So if we aren't modestly covered, we are a temptation for them to think sinful thoughts etc. Do you want to be a stumbling block to guys?

3) Safety.
So many bad things happen to girls because of the way they are dressed. I heard of some tourist girls in our country who were raped/attacked. In the newspaper report someone said something like, "The way they were dressed explained it." Of course guys are responsible for their sinful actions, but we shouldn't put temptation in front of them, otherwise we're just as guilty. I met a lady who is a missionary to the Aborigines in Australia. She reckoned that where she lived, there weren't so many rapes etc. because females don't wear tight and revealing clothes like they do here. If all girls dressed modestly, there would be a lot less problems in this world!

4) Clothes are supposed to be a covering.
Clothes are supposed to cover, aren't they? Not uncover!! Today clothes are designed to uncover.

5) You are an example to younger girls.
Girls around you are watching how you dress.  How you dress will affect how they dress. Are you a good role model?

6) It's honoring to God.
The Bible teaches us that whatever we do, we should do to the glory of God. That includes the way we dress. When is the last time you thought, 'Do these clothes honour God?'
Or do we dress to draw attention to ourselves? Do we dress to be like the world?

7) Dressing modestly will attract the right kind of guy!
If you don't dress modestly, you will attract attention, but not from a godly guy! Godly guys will have to look the other way. You want a guy who likes you for who you are--not for your body, right?

8)The way you dress reflects your heart.
I know that you can dress modestly and have a sinful heart. But if you have a heart that wants to please God, then it will affect the way you dress. If your heart is pure, you'll want to dress in a way that is pure.

9) It gives you dignity.
In the Bible in Proverbs there is a story about the strange lady. It says she is dressed like a harlot (prostitute). How do you think a harlot would dress?? I can guess! Why do they dress like that? To try and get attention to themselves. Does the way you dress make you look like a harlot?? There is no dignity in that.
I listened to a sermon where the preacher explained the difference between beauty and sensuality. God created beauty. Beauty isn't wrong.
But sensuality is different. It brings attention to your body in a sinful way. Like a harlot. Sensuality is wrong. It's not beauty.
If you're not for sale, don't advertise!

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Does God have one specific person for you to marry or would any good Christian guy do?

Is there a 'right' one?
If I hadn't believed that God had a specific person for me to marry, I wouldn't have married the man that I did! I wasn't attracted to my husband when I first met him or when he wanted to start a relationship sometime later. I hardly knew him and we didn't live in the same area, so I couldn't really get to know him without starting a relationship. If I hadn't believed that God had a specific person for me, I wouldn't have even thought twice about it. But I knew it was possible that he was the right one for me, so I prayed about it a lot and asked God for wisdom. And after five years of being married, I am so thankful I left the choice to God because He always knows what's best!
So I definitely believe the answer to this question is yes! (If its God's will for you to marry)
But I wasn't sure if I could actually back it up from the Bible.
So I started looking and was surprised at what I found. I read the story of Rebekah and Isaac to see if there were any clues.
In Genesis 24:14 when Abraham's servant was praying about finding a wife for Isaac he said,
And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
He said the same thing again in verse 44 when he was talking to Rebekah's family.
This servant believed that there was one particular girl who was the right one for Isaac. And it made his job a whole lot easier!! :)
And then if you look at the story of the very first marriage, you see that God created a wife for Adam. He didn't create 10 and give Adam the choice! He created Eve especially for Adam.
God knows what we need far better than we do.
But in saying all that, no guy is perfect! The right one does not mean a perfect one. And it's more important to be the right one yourself!