Monday, August 11, 2014

Is it wrong dating someone who is not a Christian?

My answer is yes!
The Bible doesn't have clear rules on some subjects, but it does give us clear principles to follow.
Here are five principles which I think give us the answer to this question.

1)Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2Corinthians 6:14
The Bible teaches us very clearly not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers. Why? Because it simply doesn't work. You're both going in different directions. Your closest relationships should be to believers.

2) Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. 1Corinthians 15:33
Maybe you think that through you he'll come to Christ. It's not likely!! More likely, he'll pull you away from God instead. I heard a quote once: Good health isn't contagious, but sickness is. A guy who doesn't know Christ will probably have different standards to you as his standards won't be based on Biblical principles. If you develop a close relationship with him, you'll be playing with temptation. There is enough temptation having a relationship with someone who has the same values as you. Imagine the temptation going with someone who thinks like the world! Even Christian girls are capable of sinning in this way. Don't trust  yourself!

3)A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished. Proverbs 22:3
The Bible teaches us to think ahead. Where would a relationship with a nonChristian guy lead? To getting hurt? To scars that will last for life? To losing your purity?
Will it lead you closer to Christ?? Will it lead to an unhappy marriage? Will it prepare you for the one man God has for you or will it lead you to do things that you'll regret when you are married?
A lot of dating is done without thinking ahead. You need to think 'What is the purpose? Where will it lead? Would I want to marry this guy?'

4)He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. Proverbs 13:20
You become like who you hang around! So, wouldn't you want a relationship with someone that will encourage you in the right way? Your closest friends should be people who are a good influence on you.
Psalm 119:63 I am a companion of all them that fear thee, and of them that keep thy precepts. 

5) Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Amos 3:3
Good question!
My personal advice to you if you're not ready to think about marriage just yet, is to forget about dating! If it's God's will for you to marry, He has only one man for you and He knows exactly who that guy is. If you ask Him to show you the right guy at the right time, you could be saved from a lot of hurt and distractions.
I did this myself and I am so thankful now! No regrets! I am now married with three little children. My husband was my first and only boyfriend and I'm so glad of that now.
Before I started a relationship with him I focused on serving God. I was able to be involved in a lot of things that I can't do now with little children.
This probably sounds strange as it is so normal these days to date so many guys just for fun without any thought of marriage. But it's also so normal these days for girls to get very hurt and also to lose their purity.  

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